My daughter, whom is autistic, has been bowling for about 4 years. She had her first tournament this past weekend. We were very excited for her. She loved it. But, the highlight of the tournament was a young man with cerebral palsy. He had a specialized brace and a retractable handled ball to help him bowl. He also had a loving mom. She would hook the ball on his brace and walk away. Her son would the roll the ball down the lane. He did not have the high scores but he was no slouch either. Everyone was fascinated by this team, mom and son. I know all the crap I go through with people telling me my daughter can’t do things because of her disability. I can only imagine how many people told her to give up on her son. He did not speak but he gave high fives when his team mates got strikes and the crowd cheered whenever he got one. There was a young man behind me watching and he put it perfectly…”Awesome”
Doing Project Fine..I have very limited time so this is one of my favorite “love handle” videos. You will FEEL IT tomorrow.
Then I hear parents of only children talk about how the have to play games, go all over the world and buy all kinds of stuff to keep their children entertained….uuuum NO THANKS!! When my kids are home they find something to entertain themselves. Even when they play video games they play them together. They are constantly exchanging their Ds’s for the older sister to get them out of Bowser’s castle LOL. They celebrate each other’s success between the first day of school, scoring a goal or winning a trophy. They love each other and they help each other. I think it has alot to do with me pulling back and having them be responsible for one another. Whether it is getting their sisters juice or sandwiches or just helping them tie their shoes.
We don’t spend tons on toys and we don’t go to every event that comes along (trying to do better). But, when we do go to events such as concerts, recitals, pageants or even the park my girls always have a cheering section.
My 5 year old is pageant girl…ugh. Something I said I would never do. But, she loves it..I could do without it. She loves glitz which for those who don’t know is the flipper (fake teeth) hair, makeup etc. She could sit in makeup all day.
The one question I always get is “Will you guys do Toddlers and Tiaras?” Never. I really don’t even watch the show especially after I was at the taping of one. We were at the taping of “honey boo boo’s” pageant. You did not see us because my daughter just wants to get on stage and we are pretty boring LOL. But, my main reason for not doing it is because I don’t want to set my baby up for failure. I really don’t want the world to know my 5 year old as a toddler and tiara girl. If my daughter makes a mistake in high school or college; gets drunk at a party, gets hurt, pregnant etc. the first thing the news is going to report is “FORMER TODDLER AND TIARA STAR…blah, blah, blah.” No thank you. I know it is all entertainment and they are looking for ratings and it will be at me and my family’s expense.
So we will continue to do pageants but I look forward to the day she says…no thanks mom.
At age 37 and I am making changes. I ran my first mile the other day and I am increasing my water intake..by actually drinking it…smh. Why, because by completing these little milestones I find I am more confident in other things I do…such as my blog .
But really because I have found that working out saves my family.
My husband and I are able to spend quality time together by hitting the track and also motivating each other to exercise. Then, on some days I can walk alone and just relieve the stress of being a mom. This, I have found is a great motivator.
I have not run in forever… like…since I was in single digits…Elementary, my dear. I was not an athlete but my dad always tried to get me to run track….HECK NAW..that requires sweat and pain no thank you. But, I went to the doctor for a physical and due to increasing fatigue and she basically found nothing wrong. Only suggests B12 and a multi-vitamin but I was healthy in all other areas. But then he said the “E” word UGH…NO!!!, I’M MELTING…so a year later here I am. I am actually moving my feet and sweating and I don’t think I will ever stop. Because if I can run a mile I can run a business, I can run my household better, I can get my degree, I can do anything. It is all about forming good habits even for a mother of 5 I will no longer use my children as an excuse.
So you see, it is not just about getting in shape. Work at your own pace and do something daily. I find if I take off a day it is harder to get the groove back. So even if you just do crunches do something. Good Luck and start your own “Project Fine”
What a moron…Is what I say to myself. My stockpile would look like a Target right now if I would have started couponing upon the birth of my first child (I hate Wal-mart..hence the target reference)
I started couponing before I saw the show Extreme Couponing. My husband did not think I would stick with it but I became addicted after seeing I get all the name brand food for cheap. And as an added bonus…NOT SHOP AT WALMART!! After couponing for about 2 months I finally watched Extreme couponing and…I was not impressed. The coupons were many times straight from the manufacturer or the store policies were being broken. I have never seen 200 boxes of any one brand on shelves.
Anyway, I enjoy couponing because I know longer feel like I am at the mercy of the grocery store. I knew I would not go back to “normal shopping” when one day I ran out of pickles and was able to walk into my basement and pick from a variety I had purchased for $.30 a piece. It felt so good not to have to run out for a jar of $3 pickles.
I like the fact when my children are sick I have the remedy at arms reach. I also enjoy giving away many fruits of my bounty. Couponing is now my lifestyle…I can’t go back
Many people will see this picture of my daughter and ask “What product makes it do that?”….Hmmm Let’s see that day it was coconut oil. What really makes her hair look like this is good maintenance and consistency. My daughter is all about consistency. She does the same thing every night with her hair. She retwists it. Also, if we are not going anywhere that day she leaves it alone…does not even remove her head wrap. She has no split ends and her hair is not dry at all. I, on the other hand am not that good.
I have shaved my hair 3 times and it was not called “going natural”. It was called shaving your head. All I had was dax grease and a wave cap and I rocked it. NOW if you go natural you have to use. A sealer…A $30 shampoo…$55 deep conditioner etc….You must be crazy! I have never bought anything for my hair over $15 and it is still on my head, I hate the fact that going natural is now a product competiton. My favorite twist outs are done with grease. The child with the waviest hair in my home thrives on royal crown hair grease.
My point is, use what works, not what everyone else “says” works. We as african americans are the biggest consumers of hair products. We are product junkies. But why have the top of the line if your hair still looks a hot mess. There are plenty of things olive oil, coconut oil, castor oil and yes HAIR GREASE… that stuff your momma used and many (not me) had ponytails down their back with Blue Magic…Royal Crown and Sulfur 8. Stop being a snob and being “too good” for supermarket stuff. I have too many heads in my house to wait on an order to do hair. How do I maintain??.. Suave coconut conditioner..a shea butter mix I got from you tube, olive oil and grease…there it is now find yours.