I am giving myself a C+ for parenting this school year. Yep, that’s my grade. I have half-assed all school year. From unsigned agendas to just sending money instead of going to the store for items for school activities. Why, well there are a few reasons for this year being hectic. This is the first year that ALL the girls have had activities. My youngest started baton, band was a continuation, gymnastics and track. Not to mention I returned to school to finish my bachelors degree. So, yeah I was half-assed and am not ashamed to admit it.
I felt so guilty at first but then I got over it. I did what I could and I actually dropped some activities to get things done. I had to stop my 4H sewing program because I could not run from track practice to sewing and back again and my passion for it was gone.
So how did I stop myself from feeling too guilty? Well, as a mom we always feel a little guilty when we cannot do everything for our kids but I had to teach my kids that some things cannot be done. Some things won’t be done and also to take some responsibility for the things that they want.
One day I dropped my daughter off at home and told her to get a snack as well as her gymnastics uniform on while I picked up her sister from a club event. Once I returned she decided that checking her Animal Jam account was more important. Well, she learned a valuable lesson that day, she missed gymnastics. I felt a little guilty but eventually she quit gymnastics and that was fine with me. If kids don’t have the passion for it I don’t waste money AND time.
It is now the end of the year. I missed out on the daily teacher gifts and other programs because I had little thing called my college graduation to attend. I may attend field days to boost my credibility but I still give myself a C for the school year. So, how did you do this year? Did you make crappy lunches, forget to turn in field trip money? We have all done it. What grade would you give yourself this school year?
The things that you can control, you must control. Make a decision. Don’t victimize or minimize yourself for anyone. Make a decision. Don’t make an excuse. Make a decision. There is too much free wi-fi to say you don’t know where to start. Make a decision. If people laugh...
I have my house back!! The kids were home for a week for winter break and I must say I have never been more excited to make school lunches. I picked up these strawberries from Publix. They were on sale for $1!! Can you believe that! I grabbed 4 containers and I am now down to 2!! Although, I hate the warmer months I love the bounty of seasonal fruits and vegetables.
I decided to give the 2 little ones strawberries in their lunches and I made my first PB&J sandwich with my homemade jelly. The jelly was made from Welch’s grape juice and I will probably never buy store bought jelly again. I bought the juice for .94 with a coupon and got 5 jars out of the recipe and still had juice left for the ladies and especially my husband who LOVES grape juice. The recipe was actually included in the pectin box I used.
Now, to clean up my living room and get my home back. I get lazy when I don’t have to shuttle kids everywhere. So, now I can get back to work. How do you handle winter breaks? Do you find that you are still running ragged or do you find it a time to just, take a break??
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What in the world is going on with these new parents? Once again the Pinterest Posse and the Facebook Fabulousness has given people feelings of grandeur. I have breastfed 4 out of my 5 children. I have only had one person actually ask me to move to a bathroom and I politely sat in the middle of the mall COVERED and breastfed my child. I did not have a Facebook page or Twitter feed to post about it and nobody died and a baby did not suffocate against my breast while under a receiving blanket.
Also, what is up with these pictures of women breastfeeding while naked? I am sorry, have breasts evolved? I remember having on a nursing bra and having to have padding in those bras so that the milk would not leak because in the REAL WORLD…the milk comes down both breasts when you are nursing. So, unless you want a puddle of milk in your lap you had best keep your bra on.
Please stop the controversy. They make nursing shirts that will leave you covered and you can feed the baby comfortably. Stop making excuses to flop you titty out and get attention for breastfeeding. We don’t want to see baby penises and vaginas any more than we want to see your breast and this is coming from a woman who has breastfed 4.
I miss the good old days when you did not need a hand-clap for feeding your baby. You did not have to have $1000 birthday parties for your kids or wear tight maternity dresses to show off you baby bump. I know that mess is not comfortable. It is itchy and hot!!! I honestly think it is this new feeling of entitlement and arrogance. We don’t care how you feed the baby…just feed him. We don’t care about your cloth diapers just change the diaper. These are things that are as natural as breathing but people want praise for every breath they take.
What you need to do is raise your kids to be the best THEY can be, not to show off how awesome a mom you are. You are supposed to be awesome because if you have the time and resources to search Pinterest for the best birthday parties and boutique clothes for your child, you can also find the best books, resources and activities to engage their minds and make them great.
Your likes may not be as many but your child does not care about thumbs or double-tap hearts. They care about you doing all you can to make them great. Pulling your breast out in the middle of Starbucks is about YOUR praise or attention seeking because the child is going to eat 10 times that day and could care less about one feeding that you made a statement with your breast out. Even a simple nursing bra gives coverage. I’ve done it and I know it is not necessary.
What are some things that have changed since you have brought up your kids? What are some things that you wish new moms understood?
My daughter and I did some volunteer fundraising for 4H at the Tractor Supply store. Customers came in and out buying horse supplies, chicken and goat feed. We live out in the country and are surrounded by farms. I have no knowledge of farm life, so I really had no interest. I got up to check out an archery target for my daughter and to check their prices on cat supplies (litter, food etc.). I found the off-brand litter and asked the manager how good it was. She told me that she has 4 cats, 3 of whom are boys and she mixes the litter with horse pellets….huh? The huge bag of horse pellets that she showed me was $5.99. What the heck, I gave it a try and WOW it really does cut the smell from my 3 fur-balls. She says she got the tip from her local vet. My cats have not been bothered by the texture and the pellets turn to a sawdust consistency when wet. I scoop the box like normal. I just dump it all in a plastic bin. I use and old clorox bottle that I cut up as a scoop like the picture shown. The red solo cup was too flimsy.
Give it try and let me know what you think
Yep, I allow my teen and pre-teen to watch this T.V. show. I am sure people are clutching their pearls in shock. Oh hush. We use this show as a learning tool.
You see, I am a “real housewife” on the outskirts of Atlanta. I run errands, I pick up kids and I make appointments. So, to my kids this is like watching Cartoon Network….fiction. These woman are characters to them. They ask me, why are they acting like that?? Why? because THAT is not normal or real. When you have 5 kids and responsibilities the last thing you are thinking about is 5 inch heels, your lashes and weekday bahama trips (at least it should be). I just left my friend’s house and she was just a messy as I was was. With yoga pants an oversized shirts and flip-flips, because we had just dropped our kids off at school. Not in heels and a push bra. We had on sweatshirts and a yoga pants looking at drapery.
I am sure people will say that kids don’t understand the difference but that is bull. You allow them to have I-phones, Facebook and Tumblr accounts but they can’t figure out that you can’t drink wine at noon and pick up your kids at 3:30 without getting arrested?? Give your kids more credit. Unless you are these women with cameras following you to get Panera bread and colonics then you can have a seat. Children know the real deal, unless you have shown them otherwise. Don’t depend on T.V. to raise your kids. Instead use it as a learning tool to show them the difference between real and fake..scripted versus real life. #cabbagepatchtodat
These days there are articles talking about the stress that our kids go through being in school and being held to these high expectations. I think a lot of the time we set the expectations because society sets these expectations. We preach to our children about not following the...